I believe that a woman will always find that sexual chemistry is key–with the man of her dreams, a life partner or even a date. When a woman meets a man, within the first few sentences she already knows if they will “click.” It is not always about coincidences or about subtleties with a woman. Sometimes a woman will tune you out completely in order to focus on the cues that you send with your body language. They say actions speak louder than words and they are right. Actions do speak louder than words. Your body language speaks volumes about what you are really thinking, feeling or wanting. If a woman knows how to read your body language, it will determine whether or not you will “click” with her.
For a relationship of substance, chemistry will play a major role in who she decides to date, court or make love to. Chemistry is what makes a woman yearn for you or even miss you when are away. Sometimes people get chemistry and lust confused. Anyone can lust after you, but not just anyone will truly miss you. When someone lusts after you, if you are unavailable, she will just find someone else to fulfill her needs and will not think twice about it. However, when someone has chemistry with you, she will yearn for you and only you. No one else will satisfy her thirst. Even if she gets what she wants from someone else, it will not be enough.
Chemistry sometimes happens in an instant. You may just meet someone and begin to talk like you have known each other for years, because it is so easy to open up. In other cases, chemistry may take some time to cultivate and maintain. In these cases, you take the time to get to know the individual you are interested in, either from afar or up close and personal. Either way, when you get to know her, feelings begin to arise that make you want to bring her closer, or into your life intimately. Chemistry is that tie that binds two people together as lovers, partners or even friends. You would not spend time with someone who constantly bickered with you, right? No, of course not. You wouldn’t waste your time doing that. So you take the time to get to know someone in order to feel her, and in doing so you are building chemistry.
So often, you find that a woman will jump into bed with a man before even taking the time to get to know anything about him. She needs to know what makes him tick. She will want to find out what his short-term and long-term goals are. Are they in line with her plans? Can she put up with his flaws? What is his outlook on life? Is he selfish or does he tends to be caring and generous? She needs to know these things in order to build that chemistry and to sustain a successful relationship. A lot of women have the wrong idea because they have never been taught that a man’s behavior can give them insight into how good (or bad) of a lover he is. Therefore, they endure heartbreak after heartbreak because they jump into bed with every man they meet in order to find out what the sex is like–before getting to know him.
Sex plays a crucial role in whether or not a woman will consider the relationship a success, but it does not have to be the only thing. When you have sex you open yourself up to becoming blinded to the nuances or flaws of your partner. When a woman is looking for a relationship and finally opens up to you to have sex, it is because she feels close to you. Secure, even. You have to make her feel comfortable, so that it will be easier for her to express who she truly is sexually. Once you start having sex, things will really begin to connect. You will connect with that other person on a different level, and if there is chemistry you will express yourself like you never have before. You will embark on a mission to become more emotionally attached, which will in turn foster an intimate relationship. It will become much easier to let the person know what it is that you want to have happen in the bedroom. For example: “I want you to do _____,” or “I really like it when you_____.”
So far, the things I have noted pertain to women seeking out a relationship. But sometimes, you may come across a woman who is only looking to get laid, and even in that case, there has to be something about you that made her choose you from among the crowd. Was it your conversation, physical appearance, smile, etc.? Something about you attracted her… chemistry. So is sexual chemistry important to a woman when choosing the man of her dreams? Yes. No doubt about it. But would a woman sleep with a man just for fun? Yes. But even then, a little chemistry would have had to be there. Sex is what you make it. If you have a woman who is comfortable enough with you to be able to let you know what she wants sexually, and if you are open to it, then the sexual chemistry will be solid. Sexual chemistry is not just going with the flow; it’s getting to know the person inside and out and wanting to ensure that that person gets pleased no matter what. As long as your mate is pleased and feeling appreciated, you can bet that your sexual chemistry will go through the roof. A woman is willing to work with any man if she likes or loves him enough. As long as you are open to trying things or are willing to fulfill her desires, I am sure that whatever sexual flaw you may have will be overlooked. Everyone enters a relationship on his or her own level. But the trick is to grow together. If we are having sex daily and it is always the same, wouldn’t that get boring? Of course it would. However, if I offered to try something that you had been wanting me to try, wouldn’t that make things more interesting? Yes. That is all you have to do if you want the sexual chemistry to stay on point. Listen to one another and change it up every so often. Be spontaneous.