An ex once told me that “women are complicated creatures.” At the time, I disregarded this as banter during an argument, but in retrospect, he was right. We are quite complicated. We think about every little detail and are very emotional. Overall, we want things to go perfectly, and that’s where it starts to go downhill for us. As children, we dream of the perfect job, wedding and family. We spend our lives searching for perfection around every corner, especially when it comes to men. We all have our dream relationship in our minds. Whether or not we get it is another matter. So we spend our time looking for the perfect mate, and in the process of finding him we have to go through the process of dating, which is the most complicated process of them all. Men always ask women for their phone numbers, and most of the time they get them. Now this doesn’t always mean the lady is going to answer the phone or even return your call. Here are five reasons women give out their phone number but never answer or return your call.
1. She changed her mind.The hunt is a serious game. We have this idea that maybe this man will be the one, finally! When a single woman is out and about and a man approaches her and asks for her number, for a split second this idea pops into her head. What if this is the one? Then reality kicks in and the overthinking woman realizes she was being idealistic, and there is no way she would date a guy who can’t even put an outfit together. Then the guy calls her, and she ignores it and hopes he will get the hint and leave her alone. She will then go onto the next guy hoping the same thing. This cycle will continue until she is old and alone and realizes that due to her need for perfection, she never gave anyone a chance.
2. She had one too many.
Another scenario is that she was drunk when she handed her telephone number to a complete stranger. The next morning, she asks, “What did I do last night?” Then her phone rings with a call from an unknown number. She lets it go to voicemail, only to hear some dude saying “It was nice to meet you; I’d love to get together sometime.” She wonders, who is this dude? Then memories trickle back into her consciousness. Boom! “Oh, that guy! I don’t even remember what he looks like. Yikes, what did I say to him? Hopefully he gets the hint when I don’t call him back.” Delete! You see, the thing is, women like to party and let loose on the weekends too. We like to get together with our girlfriends, get dressed up and paint the town the red. This also means having a few too many apple martinis or whiskey sours, which ultimately leads to getting really wasted. She may have blacked out and is embarrassed to talk to you after having forgotten what really happened last night.
3. She couldn’t say no.
Then there is the good old-fashioned girl who cant say no to anyone, let alone a guy who approaches her and asks for her number. Throughout history, women have been raised to be polite and please everyone, no matter the cost. Sometimes, this cost is a guy who went out of his way to talk to and/ or impress a woman who is too nice. She will giggle at your jokes, listen to your story about how you decided to change your job and now are unemployed and, of course, accept your free drinks. She will do all of this while knowing she isn’t interested, but she just doesn’t know how to tell you. She will continue with this farce maybe once or twice but is ultimately hoping you will get the hint when she doesn’t return your phone calls.
4. She met someone else.
There is also the “grass is greener” scenario. You may meet a woman and hit it off nicely. Everything is going smoothly as silk, and you feel on top of the world. Then a few days go by with no return call, and you start to wonder why. Well, you see, later that day, she met another guy who gaver her butterflies, and just like that you are gone from her mind. She no longer remembers that joke you told that made her laugh so hard she cried, or that flower you picked as you were walking together. She is now obsessed with the dude she met at the Laundromat the day after your encounter. When she gets your phone call and remembers you exist, she decides it is better to just let it go and not return your call.
5. She Googled you.
Last but not least is research. Women are very detail-oriented and when it comes to relationships, become the best detectives and lawyers around. You two may have had an awesome conversation and felt filled with joy to have met, but then she goes home, at which point Google and Facebook are your worst enemies. She searches your name, your job, your page and your pictures, then she judges you. Who are you friends with? Do you drink too much? Do you post bad jokes that are offensive to women? These are all things a woman is looking at in order to figure out if you are really the guy she just met. If it turns out you are not the guy she thought, she won’t return your call. She will judge you, and possibly misjudge you, but nonetheless, you will not be hearing from her.
So, gentlemen, don’t always blame yourself for why women don’t return your call. She may have met someone else, she may not be strong enough